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Vital words for understanding
Motivated – Feeling excited and driven to do something.
Square one – The beginning of something, especially after a failure or break.
Key account manager – A person responsible for managing important customers in a company.
Personal life – The part of your life not related to work—family, hobbies, friends, etc.
Frustrated – Feeling annoyed or upset because something isn’t working the way you want.
Synaptic connections – Links between brain cells (neurons) that allow you to think, learn, and remember.
Neurons – Brain cells that carry information and form learning pathways.
Short-term memory – Memory for things you only need to remember for a short time.
Long-term memory – Memory for things you remember for a long time, like your name or your first pet.
Grey matter – Part of the brain that helps with memory, language, and thinking.
Hippocampus – The part of your brain that helps store and recall memories.
Synaptic pruning – When the brain removes weak or unused connections to make room for stronger ones.
Recall – The ability to remember something when you need it.
Automaticity – When something becomes automatic, like understanding or speaking without thinking too much.
You start with the best of intentions. You’re motivated, you turn up, you do the work… and then life happens. A busy week. A holiday. A stressful project at work. You take a short break – harmless, right? But that short break becomes longer, and suddenly you’re back to square one. All over again. And again I’m going to give you some background.
This is Emma. Emma is an adult in her mid-thirties who enjoys life, spending time with her husband and two dogs. She likes to travel and works as a key account manager for an IT company. She needs English for her job, but also for her personal life, as she wants to be able to communicate with her husband’s foreign friends, read books and watch films in English when she travels. She finds a private teacher and starts to work on her English. She has a lesson once a week, does her homework, sometimes listens to podcasts and watches films or series. Then she takes a break. One week, two weeks of nothing. She starts again, but then there is the summer holidays, so she decides to take a break from studying and starts again in September. And this happens again and again. One day, after about 2 years of trying, she feels that she is not making any progress. She thinks she doesn’t have the brain cells or the talent to learn English. She feels frustrated.
Now. Can you relate? Can you imagine? Have you been there? Why do you think this happens?
Let me ask you a question: What do you think breaks do to your learning?
I will start with what happens in your brain when you study English regularly. I can link it to heavy lifting. Every time you hear, say or write an English word, your brain strengthens the synaptic connections between the neurons associated with that sound, meaning and usage. These connections are like trails in a forest. The more you walk them, the clearer and faster they become.
Another thing that happens is that while you sleep, your brain moves new information from short-term memory to long-term memory. Especially if it’s repetitive or emotionally engaging (something fun).
Studies also show that consistent language learning can increase grey matter density in areas associated with memory, attention and language. In particular, the hippocampus and Broca’s area. So your brain physically changes.
When you take a break from learning, when you stop practising, there is something called the use-it-or-lose-it principle that kicks in. Without use, those beautiful neural pathways start to weaken. Especially newer ones that haven’t been strengthened enough. This is called synaptic pruning. Your brain prioritises what you use regularly. If you don’t touch English for a while, it replicates those resources elsewhere. Recall becomes slower – you may recognise words, but actively recalling them (in conversation, for example) becomes more difficult. The automaticity you have built up starts to wear off.
So when you start again, it feels like you’re back to square one – not because you’re bad at languages or think you have no talent, but because the connections weren’t solid enough.
How do you fix that?
Smaller steps. More consistency. Less pressure. Instead of a weekly burst of effort, imagine if Emma:
– Spent just 10 minutes a day reviewing vocabulary or talking to herself
– Kept English in her ears while walking the dogs
– Had a light mode for holidays, no homework, just watching Netflix.
Focus on progress, not perfection.
Emma (or you) doesn’t need more talent. She needs a system. There are some positives! Her brain hasn’t forgotten everything. Thanks to something called memory, the brain can rebuild those lost connections faster than the first time – like waking up dormant knowledge. Taking breaks weakens the signal, but doesn’t erase it. Short breaks can even help to consolidate, but long, passive ones without input can slow down your progress in fluency.
Or stop.